THIS WEEK'S DEAR JOHN LETTER!
Dear John,
I'm not sure how to feel about this. I hope it is just a misunderstanding, but my mother-in-law recently said something that was a bit hurtful. She didn't say it to me. She said it to my husband. He told me, now I need to decide how to respond, or if I should say anything at all. First of all, she's almost 80. She refuses to wear a hearing aid. When we have a family gathering, she never hears what anyone is saying, so I tend to spend less time talking to her lately. Apparently, at Christmas time, she was talking to me about something and I walked away. I can tell you 100% truth, I don't think this happened. If it did, I was oblivious to the fact that she was talking to me. She said that she thinks I'm too good for her, or something like that. It has nothing to do what that. I just can't communicate with her without shouting, then I feel like I'm being mean. It's so awkward that I find myself tending to sit far away. Not because I don't like her, I absolutely love her, but because she can't hear me and it's aggravating to me. My mother had the same issue, but she wears hearing aids and she can hear better than my husband now, but that's a whole different letter. I want to talk to my mother-in-law about this, but my husband said it would make her feel bad to know that I shared this with her, but here's the thing. We don't keep secrets. We made that decision over 30 years ago. If you need to keep secrets from your spouse, you probably shouldn't be married. He just asked me to try to be more aware when we get together next time. It makes me feel really bad that she thought I was too good for her. I love vising with her and I miss our conversations, but she refuses to do anything to hear better. What should I do? Do I mention something to her? Do I avoid the topic? Do I avoid her?
Signed – Sad daughter-in-law
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TODAY'S REASON TO PARTY! (special thanks to ListOfNationalDays.com)
Root Beer Float Day
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SURVEYS, STUDIES & SUCH
Just in case you wondered if it is a thing, cosmetic procedures CAN become addictive. A new study of 1,600 women found that of those who have had undergone cosmetic treatments, 20% showed signs of moderate-to-severe risk for addictive cosmetic procedure use. Researchers found the highest risk in women with both low body esteem and problematic social media use, suggesting that constant exposure to idealized images may fuel a cycle of repeat cosmetic treatments. Across all women surveyed, including those who had never had a procedure, nearly 1 in 11 showed signs of moderate-to-severe risk. And age made no difference. Women in their late 20s were as likely to show warning signs as women in their late 60s.
BIG SCREEN-LITTLE SCREEN
William Shatner has revealed that he and his daughter, Melanie Shatner Gretsch, both faced different types of stage 4 cancer a few years ago. The 95-year-old said in an interview that Gretsch, who is 61, was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2022. While she was receiving treatment, in June 2023, Shatner was diagnosed with Stage 4 malignant melanoma that had spread to his lungs and brain. Both say they are now cancer-free, with Shatner adding they found “the perfect doctors” for their illnesses. He recently announced he has started a heavy metal band(!), which will appear at Chicago’s Riot Fest in September.
Filmmaker Jonathan Levine is in talks to direct the Tom Cruise “Days of Thunder” sequel. It’s first major sign that the highly anticipated project is moving forward after producer Jerry Bruckheimer spoke about a follow-up to the 1990 NASCAR movie during the “F1” press tour. Cruise will produce with Bruckheimer. The last time Paramount ignited a classic Cruise property, in “Top Gun: Maverick”, it became the actor’s and the studio’s highest grossing movie ever, at $1.5 billion worldwide.
DID YA KNOW!?
Did You Know... A dolphin's skin renews itself very quickly. This constant replacement helps keep it smooth, allowing dolphins to swim efficiently through the water.
JOKE OF THE DAY
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It turns out NOT having a detailed career plan might actually be good for you. A 6-month study of nearly 1,000 workers found that people who were comfortable with uncertainty, trusted their intuition, and were willing to make decisions without having all the answers were more likely to find meaning in their work. That sense of purpose was then linked to greater job satisfaction and stronger engagement. Researchers say “career wisdom” doesn’t mean making reckless choices – it means being flexible, accepting that plans can change and knowing when to stop searching for the perfect answer.
People-pleasing may seem like a positive trait to others, but constantly seeking others’ approval could actually drain your motivation. Psychologist Mark Travers says lasting motivation depends on 3 things: feeling competent, connected to others and, most importantly, having a sense of autonomy. When you become overly concerned with what others think, you may start second-guessing your own decisions and waiting for permission before acting. What begins as consideration for others can eventually become a habit of needing validation before doing anything – making it harder to pursue your own goals and stay motivated.
THE MOVIE QUOTE OF THE DAY
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“I’m the king of the world!” — Titanic — Jack Dawson (Leonardo DiCaprio) — 1997
NEWS TO ME
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✓ The world has been at peace only about 8% of the time over the last 3,500 years.
✓ The inventor of revolving doors did so because he disliked opening doors for women.
✓ The patent for the first fire hydrant was destroyed in a fire.
✓ The oldest fast-food restaurant in the world is the White Castle franchise, which opened in 1921.
✓ Americans eat more burgers at restaurants or on-the-go than they do at home.
WEIRD NEWS
An Australian town crier has earned a place in the record books after being recognized as the loudest person ever measured. 58-year-old Joseph McGrail-Bateup of Canberra set the record by shouting the word “now” at 122.4 decibels — louder than the previous mark of 121.7 decibels set by a Northern Ireland schoolteacher in 1994. The sound level is comparable to a chainsaw or an ambulance siren heard up close. McGrail-Bateup needed 7 attempts to break the record and said his voice was hoarse for days afterward. A longtime town crier known as “Lord Joseph,” he first became interested in the feat while researching records related to his ceremonial role. Despite his achievement, he says he’d be happy if someone eventually beats it. Quote: “Records are meant to be broken.” LINK: https://tinyurl.com/58h7hwks
QUESTION OF THE DAY
When asked to name a type of bell, ‘doorbell’ was number one…what was number 2?
Answer: Cowbell
SOMETHING SPECIAL WITH HEIDI SMALL
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THE LIST
More than one in 5 people say a partner’s annoying sleep habits have contributed to the end of a relationship. A survey of 2,000 adults (in the US) found that 17% had ended a relationship specifically because of a partner’s disruptive nighttime habits, while another 6% said sleep issues were one factor in the breakup. Snoring was the biggest culprit, appearing in 62% of responses and ranking as the most annoying sleep habit overall. Other major irritations include tossing and turning, stealing the covers and watching TV in bed. But on the other hand, 64% of respondents said they’re willing to put up with a partner’s disruptive sleep habits. Here are the things that people find most annoying about sharing a bed…
1. Snoring – 44%
2. Tossing and turning – 30%
3. Stealing the covers – 27%
4. Watching TV while in bed – 24%
5. Getting up during the night to use the bathroom – 18%
6. Eating in bed – 18%
7. Listening to music while in bed – 14%
8. Sleeptalking – 12%
9. Sleepwalking – 7%
GOOD NEWS
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Office Worker Saves 8-Month-Old Baby After She Suddenly Stops
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