Show Notes for Thursday, October 05, 2023


Dear John,

I recently finished a Ph.D. program and was fortunate enough to have a tuition waiver. I ended up going a little into credit card debt but paid it off and have been saving. My wife was also in a Ph.D. program but dropped out when it was time to write a thesis. She said she thought about it for a long time but never discussed it with me. I found out when she asked if I’d be willing to become a domestic partner so she could get my health insurance. I’ve been saving for years for a down payment on a house. I’ve asked if she can help, and she’s said she needs to pay down $30,000 in credit card bills. Up until a few months ago, she kept assuring me they were almost done. Then, I found out that she is not $30k in debt. She's $300,000 in debt. We’ve been together for three years and she never told me. She says she didn’t know the amount and wasn’t hiding anything from me. Somehow, that makes me feel even worse. We currently split the rent, and she’s made a few poor decisions, like when she had issues due to a toxic work environment and wanted to quit before getting a new job. We both have good jobs, and she has a plan and is sticking with it. However, I don’t know if I’m comfortable having joint ownership of a home if I make the down payment myself. I may also end up just getting the loan by myself for a better interest rate, as I’ve got an excellent credit rating, for now. She says if I make the down payment, she’ll pay more of the mortgage until we’ve contributed equally, but that doesn’t seem like it will work out anytime soon. I feel like I’d rather just get it by myself and have the house in my name, but I don’t know how to have that conversation. What should I do?


Hopeful Homeowner

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October 5th

National Do Something Nice Day

Chic Spy Day

Global James Bond Day

National Be Nice Day

National Get Funky Day

National Kiss A Wrestler Day

National Military Podcast Day

World Meningitis Day

National Apple Betty Day

World Teachers Day

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I don’t know about you, but I sure could go for a nap today. Actually, I’m good with a nap ANY day, but according to a survey, Wednesdays are the most popular day to take a daytime snooze. A new poll of 2,000 US adults found that more than a quarter (26%) can’t get through the workweek without getting a nap in at some point. Peak nap time for tired workers strikes at 9:39am, and 65% say the urge to nap strikes sometime before 12noon — and most commonly on a Wednesday. 40% of workers say it takes about 3-5 hours into a workday before they start to “need” a nap, and 26% have decided not to fight it – and have brought a pillow to work with them. Outside of work, the most-common events that people said they’ve missed because they were napping were…

a sports game (30%)

meeting up with friends (28%)

a birthday party (28%)

a family dinner (28%)

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It could be that we’re all headed back to “The Office”. A decade after the hit mockumentary sitcom came to an end, and following years of revival rumors, a reboot of The Office is reportedly in the works, with original showrunner Greg Daniels set to return. Although it hasn’t been announced, a Puck News report said it will be among a number of projects that will be announced once the Writers Guild of America strike ends. A “tentative agreement” was announced on Sunday night. It is unclear if any of the original cast members would return for the reboot.

Saturday Night Live” is expected to get in pretty much a full season after the writers and the studios reached an agreement to end the strike. The NBC show had Season 48 cut short by 3 episodes when writers walked out at the beginning of May. Now, it’s being reported that SNL which traditionally restarts at the end of September or beginning of October, is now likely to return either October 7 or 14, pending a vote by the WGA.

Today is Global James Bond Day. 007’s iconic name was almost completely different, says a new book. According to “Ian Fleming: The Complete Man,” MI6 superspy ‘James Bond’ was nearly called ‘Rodney’. That surprising revelation was discovered in author Ian Fleming’s old papers that the book’s writer Nicholas Shakespeare was given access to. Rodney Bond, it turns out, was a real person who saved the life of Fleming’s brother Peter in 1941.

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The National Hockey League is trying to grow its game with a big push down under. It featured its first-ever games played in the Southern Hemisphere over the weekend, with 2 pre-season tilts between the LA Kings and Arizona Coyotes, played in Melbourne. In addition, the league is expanding its street hockey program to Australia – where it’s common to see the game of cricket played in parks and on quiet roads. The NHL’s street-hockey program is aimed at 6-16-year-olds, and has been used successfully in non-traditional hockey markets such as Las Vegas, Nashville and Tampa. If popular in the Melbourne area, the street hockey program will be expanded across the country next year. And if you think this idea is odd, consider this: Hockey actually has a 100-year history in the country, and its semi-pro Australian Ice Hockey League has 10 teams, made up of a lot of expatriate and some former pro players.

Here’s what you REALLY want: Paris Fashion Week is on, and one of the buzziest items hitting the runway is Italian designer Marni’s “big foot 2.0”—a tennis shoe so bloated, it looks like it comes with its own air compressor. Big foot 2.0 is part of the “clowncore” fashion movement that’s grown in popularity recently, like the big red boots that were spotted on Doja Cat and Lil Nas X. A lot of looks in the Paris haute couture fashion shows earlier this year also referenced clowns and harlequins. LINK:

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Hasbro has unveiled the first-ever Nerf-themed land at Beto Carrero World theme park in Brazil, set to open on Oct.12. Nerf Mania is a 14,000-square-meter attraction, featuring family-friendly rides, a themed restaurant and a Nerf shop. Experiences include Nerf Arcade, the Super Soaker Splash aquatic attraction, and Spin Blast Adventure disc ride. Beto Carrero World is the largest theme park in Latin America.

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fascinated that anyone in their 20s could have a home decor style beyond “this was free on marketplace”, “this was my grandma’s” or “I live near an outlet mall and checked daily for a year until a couch was marked under $500” — emily

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i told my dad about my breakup and he was like ‘the clash broke up, too’ – Jamie Loftus

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life with astigmatism is more romantic because every light is a twinkle light — delia

there are two types of grandmas. regular grandma and cigarette grandmas. and u can tell when somebody was raised by a cigarette grandma – noemmeG

yeh i’ll get up soon i just need to look at the internet first. yes the whole thing – Beth McColl

i love when apple is like “we are going to install updates tonight when you are sleeping” and when you wake up they’re just like “couldn’t do it! you slept weird and we couldn’t do it!” – Claire Lower

my job? nfl team graphic designer. my mission? to make a bird look as mean as possible — molly mary o’brien

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At bedtime I ceremonially move the claw clip from my hair to the bag of chips, signifying the end of the day. – Spooky Leggy Pain

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i think if u have a really (messed) up dream you should be allowed to call off work. i just watched my mother get attacked by a tiger and you expect me to hop on a zoom meeting rn — Cait

actually the real monster is the person who goes out of their way to correct you that Frankenstein was the doctor’s name – stoned cold fox

i don’t want to “heal” my inner child, i want to “give her a big sword” – Meg

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