Show Notes for Thursday, May 16, 2024


Dear John,

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we're expecting our first child. I really want this child to have my last name because I'm so proud of my family history and want my kids to have that pride. I always thought I'd take my husband's name and my kids would have his last name. But since I'm not married, I feel differently. I want this for myself and for my kids. My question is, how? He is very traditional. I don't think he would want a wife with a different last name and I KNOW he would not take my name. And if I bring this up about our baby when we're not married, it may freak him out and I may lose him. I love him, but the more I think about it, the more I want this...and it may be a deal breaker. Am I crazy?


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May 16th

Drawing Day

Honor Our LGBTQ Elders Day

International Day Of Light

International Day Of Living In Peace

National Barbeque Day

National Biographer’s Day

National Check Your Wipers Day

National Coquilles Saint Jacques Day

National Do Something Good For Your Neighbor Day

National Horse Rescue Day

National Love A Tree Day

National Mimosa Day

National Piercing Day

National Sea Monkey Day

National Stop Nausea Day

National Wear Purple For Peace Day

Nickel Day

Ride A Unicycle Day

Sex Differences In Health Awareness Day

Brown Bag It Thursday

Global Accessibility Awareness Day

National Apéritif Day

National Notebook Day

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Scientists say they have developed a new method to determine whether tree sap is low quality (also known as “buddy sap”) or syrup-grade. Canadian researchers (naturally, considering the subject matter) from Ottawa’s Carleton University have developed “test strips” which work similarly to a Covid or pregnancy test. The strip is placed in the sap sample for 2 minutes, after which one or two lines will appear. Two lines indicate the sample is clean. One indicates can’t be turned into maple syrup. They hope to make the strips available next year. The way things work now, syrup producers have to boil sap down and carry out the entire syrup-making process before they are able to determine it is OK for consumers.

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Matthew Perry’s Los Angeles-area home is on the market. The “Friends” star had just purchased the mid-century estate at the time of his death, and the luxurious property is now for sale for $5.1 million. reports that Perry purchased the house in the hills above the Sunset Strip for $4.995 million in May 2023. He apparently never resided there before his unexpected death that October at age 54. The 3-bedroom, 3.5-bathroom, 2,800-square-foot home could be yours, if you have room in your budget for a monthly payment of $35,700.

The Office” spin-off starring Domhnall Gleeson and Sabrina Impacciatore has been granted a series order at Peacock. The mockumentary, which is currently untitled, will take place in the same universe as The Office, and will feature an ensemble cast. The official logline says: “The documentary crew that immortalized Dunder Mifflin’s Scranton branch is in search of a new subject when they discover a dying historic Midwestern newspaper and the publisher trying to revive it with volunteer reporters.” Production will begin in July. A release date hasn’t been announced.

Green Book” director Peter Farrelly will direct “I Play Rocky,” the true story of how Sylvester Stallone bet on himself to play the role of a lifetime. I Play Rocky will follow Stallone as a struggling actor with a partially paralyzed face and a speech impediment. When he writes a hot script that a big movie studio wants to buy, he turns down an offer of life-changing money, and works for a pittance in order to get the movie made with himself as ‘Rocky’. The result is the biggest box office hit of 1976, as well as a Best Picture Oscar winner. Casting is currently underway.

Steve Buscemi is OK after he was punched in the face by a man on a New York City street. The 66-year-old star of “Fargo” and “Boardwalk Empire” was assaulted Wednesday morning and taken to a nearby hospital with bruising, swelling and bleeding to his left eye. His publicist’s statement called it a “random act of violence”, and said he’s “ok and appreciates everyone’s well wishes.” Police say there have been no arrests and the investigation is continuing.

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A study claims that one in 9 men secretly wear makeup.

It’s the latest example of the great cultural divide between Boomers, millennials and Generation Z: How you text. Tech influencer Tyler Morgan says in a TikTok video with more than 2.8 million views that he can tell someone’s age “by how they type on their phone”. In the clip, captioned, “How old do you text,” he goes on, telling viewers that anyone who’s “using swipe to text” is most likely a millennial (those born roughly between 1981-96). He also says that texters who can type “fast and accurately” using one hand, are probably Gen Z (born between 1997-2012). And what about those who can type accurately with both thumbs? That’s a skill that straddles both millennial and Zoomer generations. Morgan feels that people remain at this “thumb tapping” age until their 50s (Gen Xers are born 1965-80), after which they tend to start typing with a thumb and index finger. And going back one more generation, he says that those born before 1965 do away with the thumb entirely, and just poke away at the letters with their “Peter pointer” finger. LINK:

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The sound of the “Star Wars” lightsaber was created using the combined sounds of a film projector and noise from an old TV.

Contrary to popular belief, no study has proven that eating chocolate causes acne.

Scientists still don’t know what causes the shower-curtain effect, when the curtain billows inward while the shower is running.

In 1966, Mercedes invented a car controlled by a joystick, replacing both the steering wheel and pedals. It could also be driven from the passenger seat.

Mice sing like birds, but humans can’t hear them.


About 40% of couples will argue about THIS while in the car. What is it?

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Last week, 2 giant portals that look like something out of a sci-fi movie appeared in New York City and Dublin, connecting the cities with a 24/7 video feed. The portals, placed on Dublin’s famous O’Connell Street and in New York’s Flatiron district, are part of an artist’s vision to unite the world. The livestream is on a big, circular screen, allowing those in each city to keep tabs on what’s happening in the other, in real-time. Occasionally, a cheer goes up on the Dublin street when people passing the New York screen wave across the Atlantic — and vice-versa in the Big Apple. And of course, the portal has occasionally inspired strangers to flirt, connect – or twerk across the miles. One hopeful Dubliner was even seen holding a handmade sign with the message: “Send Nudes.” LINK:

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Liam and Olivia have topped the list of most-popular names for a 5th consecutive year, among babies born in the US in 2023. The latest ‘baby-names’ list was released by the Social Security Administration on Friday. Actually, the name Liam has topped the boys list for 7 years now, and Olivia for 5. Following Liam, the most common names for boys are, in order: Noah, Oliver, James, Elijah, Mateo (in the top 10 for the first time), Theodore, Henry, Lucas, and William. After Olivia, the most popular names for girls are: Emma, Charlotte, Amelia, Sophia, Mia, Isabella, Ava, Evelyn and Luna. The fastest rising name for boys is Izael, and the second fastest rising is Chozen. (The Netflix show “Cobra Kai” featured a character with that name in its last season.) For girls, one of the fastest rising baby names is Kaeli. There is a YouTube and TikTok star named Kaeli McEwen.

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