Show Notes for Thursday, November 17, 2022


Dear John,

My family will be getting together next month for a big Christmas party. It's customary for everyone to buy a gift for someone else. We draw names in about a week. My youngest sister recently lost her job. I want to call her to let her know I will cover her gift for this year. My wife said that was rude to assume anything and it may hurt her feelings. Does that seem like something that would be rude? I just want to make sure she is able to join the rest of the family next month and not have any reason to avoid the get together. I also don't want her to feel obligated to spend money on someone else right now when she is between jobs. Should I call her anyway, even though my wife said I should leave her alone?

Thank you,

Loving Brother

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November 17

National Baklava Day

National Butter Day

National Homemade Bread Day

National Take a Hike Day

Great American Smokeout

National Rural Health Day

World Pancreatic Cancer Day

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Researchers from Edith Cowan University say you may be able to cut your weightlifting routine in half and still see the same muscle-building results. How? By lowering weights instead of lifting them up. They found, in studies where various groups of people performed 3 distinct types of dumbbell curl exercises, that those who only lowered weights during their workouts saw the same improvements as those who raised and lowered weights, despite performing half the number of repetitions.

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A new research hub at the University of St Andrews in Scotland is dedicated to preparing humanity to deal with extraterrestrial life. The goal of the SETI (Search for Extraterrestrial Intelligence) Post-Detection Hub is to be a permanent co-ordinating centre for an international effort to develop protocols, procedures and treaties aimed at ensuring humanity will “respond responsibly” if we find evidence of, or are contacted by, other life in the cosmos. John Elliott, the hub’s coordinator, says we don’t know if we’ll ever get a message from “E.T.”, but “we do know that we cannot afford to be ill prepared—scientifically, socially, and politically…for an event that could turn into reality as early as tomorrow”.


Finally, fans can see a glimpse of Brendan Fraser’s highly-lauded performance. The first official trailer for Darren Aronofsky’s “The Whale” dropped on Tuesday, after the film received standing ovations at festivals. Fraser plays a 600-pound English teacher named ‘Charlie’ who suffers from morbid obesity and is struggling to reconnect with his estranged teenage daughter, played by “Stranger Things” star Sadie Sink. In the trailer, Fraser says: “Do you ever get the feeling people are incapable of not caring? People are amazing.” The film premiered at Venice Film Festival, where Fraser broke down in tears during a 6-minute standing ovation. The actor also got emotional during another standing ovation at the BFI London Film Festival.

Bradley Cooper has reportedly rekindled his relationship with his ex, Irina Shayk. The Daily Mail reported that Cooper and Shayk appear to be back together based on their PDA during a stroll in New York City. Cooper and Shayk, who share a daughter, Lea, dated from 2015-19. On Monday, the 2 were seen walking arm-in-arm around the Big Apple. They dressed casually for the outing, and were accompanied by Cooper’s dog. The Daily Mail pointed out that Cooper and Shayk were close during their walk, and the model even gave Cooper a pat on the butt at one point. Their latest outing comes after the pair sparked reconciliation rumors in the summer by traveling to the Bahamas along with their daughter.

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Queen Elizabeth was tickled pink to make a new pal in the weeks before her death: Tom Cruise. The Sunday Times of London says the monarch and the “Top Gun” star “really hit it off” over the summer. Cruise appeared as part of the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee celebrations, marking her 70th anniversary on the throne, but was plagued by mobility issues and unable to meet him, so he was invited to have a special tour of Windsor Castle, after which the 2 had tea together, according to a source. They enjoyed each other’s company so much, that the Queen invited him back for lunch, and “He was even allowed to fly in by helicopter,” said the source.

The Queen of Christmas is back with a 2-hour primetime concert special next month. CBS will present “Mariah Carey: Merry Christmas to All!” on Tuesday, Dec. 20 at 8pm ET/PT. The show will also be available live and on demand on Paramount+. Filmed in New York City at Madison Square Garden, the concert special will feature Carey performing a repertoire of her festive holiday hits, including the perennial favorite ‘All I Want for Christmas Is You.’ Carey is the best-selling female artist of all-time, with more than 200 million albums sold and 19 Billboard Hot 100 #1 singles.

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Every Pixar movie contains a reference to the Pixar movie that comes after it.

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All the blinking you do in one day equates to having your eyes closed for 30 minutes.

The first computer mouse was created from wood in 1964.

The word taxi is spelled the same in English, German, French, Swedish and Portuguese.


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Answer: Group text threads

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The US National Park Service is pleading with nature-goers to stop licking toads in an attempt at getting high off their gland-secreted psychedelic substance. But toad licking — once spoofed on “Family Guy” — particularly from the Colorado River toad, comes with serious health risks, the NPS warned in a Facebook post. The agency warns that “Licking or swallowing can lead to numbness of the mouth and throat as well as severe and life-threatening effects on the heart (including cardiac arrest) as a result of the digoxin-like compounds.” To drive home the point, the NPS went on: “As we say with most things you come across in a national park, whether it be a banana slug, unfamiliar mushroom, or a large toad with glowing eyes in the dead of night, please refrain from licking…not only is this illegal (5-MEO-DMT is a DEA schedule I drug), it’s also quite dangerous.” The Colorado River toad, found in parts of California, Arizona and New Mexico, is one of North America’s tallest, at 7 inches.

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Whyzit people passing other people in boats always wave? People in cars do not do this. (“Hi! I’m on a boat, too!”)

Whyzit eggs are in the dairy section at the supermarket? Ever see a cow lay an egg?

Whyzit cartoon characters wear the same outfit in every single episode?

Whyzit we feel it necessary to look in the mirror after puking or crying?

Whyzit we call it a ‘pair of pants’ when it’s just one?

Whyzit the numbers on a phone go one way and the numbers on a calculator go the other?

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