Show Notes for Thursday, October 19, 2023


Dear John,

There's a park right across the street from our house. We've been avoiding the park because there is a kid who is a bit rough at the park. He's pretty aggressive towards the other kids. He kicks and pushes other kids. He doesn't have much guidance. A few weeks ago I was there with my kids and this bully was being mean to everyone. I scolded him and he didn't seem to care. I asked him to behave or go home. He said “I don't have to listen to you. You can't touch me or my dad will sue your pants off” He went on to tell me his dad is an attorney and he doesn't care if he's rough with others because he's raising him to be tough.

OK. I'm not raising my kids to be wimpy, but I also don't think they need to be pushed around. We've been avoiding the park and going to a different area on nice days. My kids want to go to this park, but I see the bully there being a bully, so I avoid it. What would you do as a parent knowing there's a good chance he'd push or hit your kid? Am I teaching my kids to be wimpy by avoiding the little jerk? Should we go back over and record him being mean so I have evidence? I'm so confused. It would just be nice to be able to enjoy the nice days while we have them.


Concerned Dad

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