Show Notes for Thursday, February 22, 2024


Dear John,

I have a huge family. There are 14 female cousins and 10 male cousins. My sister is getting married in June, which brings about a bunch of problems. But I have no idea what to do about this one. About half of the cousins are already married. When the first one to get married asked me to be a bridesmaid, I turned her down. I wanted to have fun, eat food, and dance. But I got her a great gift. And I told her that when I get married, I will not have a bridal party, and wouldn't expect a bachelorette party. All of the cousins understood, there were no hard feelings. And it wasn't that big of a deal. Until now. Now that my younger sister is getting married, she asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I turned her down. I did it very gently. I told her sorry, but with working full-time, being in the final stages of preparing my thesis, and teaching some classes, I wouldn't make a good bridesmaid. The real reason is my sister is already a Bridezilla. The dresses for her party are $450, she expects a weekend party in Vegas with all the bells and whistles, and wants everyone to attend dance classes to learn a surprise dance for the reception. I am not gonna do it. Well, my sister didn't take "no" all that well. "Now, she says I'm not invited to her wedding, and if I'm not willing to put forth the effort to make her day perfect, then I don't deserve to be there. She says she shouldn't have to pay for me to come to her party if I won't invest in her happiness. Honestly, I don't care. But my mom and some aunts are calling me out for it. Even the cousins, who all know my policy, are saying I'm out of line because it's my SISTER. I say I'm just being consistent. What should I do here?


Not A Bridesmaid

We'll answer THIS Dear John Letter on Thursday's show.... and we can answer YOUR letter NEXT week! Simply send a message to our facebook page at (your comments are welcome & wanted) or email it through our web form at Whether we use it on the air or not, EVERY Dear John Letter is answered. We offer advice and promise to keep your identity 100% anonymous. #DearJohnLetters #JohnAndHeidiShow #FreeAdvice

TODAY IS A SPECIAL DAY! (A special thanks to

February 22nd

Be Humble Day

European Day For Victims Of Crime

National Cook A Sweet Potato Day

National Margarita Day

National Wildlife Day

Play More Cards Day

Recreational Sports & Fitness Day

Scouts Founder’s Day

Single Tasking Day

Supermarket Employee Day

Walking The Dog Day

World Thinking Day-A Girl Scout Day

SURVEYS, STUDIES & SUCH: Brought to you by

Just imagine being able to “turn off” your allergies. A new discovery shaking the foundations of allergy research might have just made that possible. For the first time, a team at Hamilton, Ontario’s McMaster University has isolated a cell responsible for “remembering” allergies and triggering the production of antibodies that cause the allergic reaction. It is considered a breakthrough in the quest to neutralize the body’s reaction to allergens, which in extreme cases (such as to nuts or shellfish), can cause anaphylactic shock and death. The researchers have been working on isolating that cell for 15 years, and say, “Our job now is to find ways to inactivate it.”

DID YA KNOW!? Brought to you by

You dancing style is as unique as your fingerprints, researchers say. A team from the University of Jyväskylä in Finland used AI to analyze the dancing styles of test subjects. But interestingly, computers had trouble identifying which style of music, whether it be jazz, reggae, pop, country or metal, because the vast majority of people maintain a uniform uniqueness to their dancing style. The researchers also say a person’s dance moves can provide a whole lot of information about a person; such as if they are extroverted, neurotic, what type of mood they happen to be in, and even how much they empathize with others.

Brought to you by

Oppenheimer,” “Poor Things,” “Saltburn,” and “Spider-Man: Across the Spider-Verse” won the top movie awards at the 28th annual Art Directors Guild Excellence in Production Design Awards, held on Saturday in Hollywood. “Oppenheimer” won for period film, “Poor Things” for fantasy, “Saltburn” for contemporary and “Spider-Man” for animated film. In the TV categories, awards went to “Succession,” “The Great,” “Reservation Dogs,” “The Last of Us,” “Beef,” “Frasier,” “Squid Game: The Challenge,” and the 80th Golden Globe Awards ceremony.

Eric Idle was in salty form on X over the weekend, posting dismissive words for Monty Python co-founders John Cleese and Terry Gilliam. Idle, who is 80, expressed-surprise that the comedy troupe’s income had dried up. He wrote: “I don’t know why people always assume we’re loaded. Python is a disaster. Spamalot made money 20 years ago. I have to work for my living. Not easy at this age.” He blamed the mismanagement of the Python brand on Gilliam and his daughter, Holly. Idle also took issue with Netflix after a follower suggested that the streaming giant make a documentary on the rise and fall of Python. Idle replied with expletives regarding both the streamer and documentaries in general.

SCOOP OF THE DAY: Brought to you by

Studies have shown that eating food without preservatives can improve your I.Q. score by up to 14%.

All Louise Pelly wanted for her 104th birthday was to receive 104 birthday cards. But people in her community and from around the world smashed those expectations, showering her with more than 1,500 notes and cards. And her retirement home in Clarenville, Newfoundland and Labrador, is still receiving cards every day, following her Feb. 1 celebration. Staff there, who are taking the time to read each note to Pelley, have been stunned by how many birthday wishes have arrived — from as far away as Dubai, Germany and Alabama. The first ones started arriving shortly after the home posted Pelley’s birthday wish on its Facebook page in January. Her secret to a long life? “Be kind to people, and they’ll be kind to you.”

Share this with your friends... they'll think you're really smart!

The Tyrannosaurus rex reached full size between 16-22 years old, and only lived 27-33 years.

In the Philippines, McDonald’s serves spaghetti.

The “BF” in “B.F. Goodrich” stands for ‘Benjamin Franklin’.

Roller coasters were invented to keep Americans away from seedier pastimes, such as saloons and brothels.

An ant can survive a fall from almost any height, because its terminal velocity would never be high enough to injure it.


Question: 11% of households have THESE under at least one bed. What are they?

Answer: Dirty dishes

WEIRD NEWS: Brought to you by

When planning their wedding, this pair definitely took a gamble. Instead of showing their appreciation to their guests with the usual stuff, like personalized treats or wine glasses — Lake Tahoe couple Matt and Jessica Grime leaned into their shared love for the San Francisco 49ers. They purchased 180 $2 sports bets for the NFL team to win the 2024 Super Bowl, and gave one to each of their guests, along with a note, which read in part: “You bet on us, so we placed a bet for you. We hope you get as lucky as us!” Little did they know at the time of their September 2023 wedding that the 49ers would make it all the way to the big game. The bets had odds of +850 when they were purchased, so if the 49ers win, each guest will win about $19.

THE LIST: Brought to you by


Asterisk (AS-tuh-risk): The problem is that pesky metathesis. Metathesis? That’s when people accidentally rearrange sounds in a word, like a toddler saying spaghetti as “pasketti.” Here, it’s the final ‘S’ and the ‘K’, which often come out as “asteriks.”

Brewery (BROO-uh-ree): No, it’s not the booze talking. Saying this word while sober is hard enough, thanks to that tricky middle syllable. (Try saying “rural brewery” 5 times fast!)

Defibrillator (dee-FIB-ruh-ley-ter): Thanks to “dissimilation”, this word often comes out as “defibyulator.”

February: (FEB-roo-er-ee): Actually, so many people add a “y” sound after the ‘b’ that many dictionaries now accept that as correct.

Antarctic (ant-AHRK-tik): Those 2 Cs are trouble. Just like the similarly-named Arctic, the southern pole often gets renamed the Ant-ART-tic.

Library (LAHY-brer-ee): Please don’t say “liberry”. Merriam-Webster can cite cases where even college presidents and professors use the dissimilated form.

Often (AW-fuhn): If you’re saying it as “off-ten,” you’re technically wrong. Merriam-Webster prefers the T-less version since it better reflects the evolution from its Middle English roots.

Specific (spi-SIF-ik): Try to keep the name of the world’s largest ocean out of it.

Temperature (tem-PER-uh-cher): It’s pronounced just the way it looks. Just make sure you say that “R” in the middle.

Worcestershire (WOOS-ter-sheer): Pronunciations of the condiment vary based on where you’re from, but most people skip the first ‘R’ altogether. (For clarity, could someone tell me how they say this in Massachusetts?)

Antidisestablishmentarianism (an-tee-dis-uh-stab-lish-muhn-TAIR-ee-uh-niz-uh-m): It’s a tongue twister at 28 letters and 13 syllables. And BTW, even though most dictionaries don’t include it, it means being opposed to the withdrawal of state support from an established church.

QUOTE OF THE DAY: Brought to you by

If you have a favorite quote.... you can send it to us at the bottom of the page at

If you want to know what God thinks of money, look at the people he gave it to.” —Dorothy Parker

GOOD NEWS: Brought to you by

Christian Bale Is Building 12 Homes To Keep Siblings In Foster Care Together