Show Notes for Thursday, May 23, 2024


Dear John,

My husband and I are expecting our first baby, and it's also the first grandchild in the family for both sets of parents. We have decided that if it's a boy, he will be named after my husband's grandfather. he was very close to him and he died three years ago. My in-laws have been kind of strange about it. They are very religious and have told us they have their whole church praying that we will have a boy, and have asked us to attend prayers and rituals with them. I didn't like that, but went along with it just to avoid a problem. Well, we found out we were having a girl. My husband took it very hard. He cried in the car, then turned his phone off to hide from his family. He finally told them and they all made their disappointment quite clear. This bugged me, because my daughter deserves to be celebrated. A couple of weeks later, they started coming to visit but they kept referring to our child as our "son", claiming the results were false because they have faith. I had several fights with them but they kept it up, and my husband sided with them. Well, my Sister-In-Law called to inform me she had arranged a baby shower. I get along with her very well and was very happy about it. But when I arrived, the room was decorated with blue balloons, and blue cake with grandpa's name in the decorations everywhere. My Sister-in-Law explained they were ‘still’ hoping the gender results are false and it’s a boy. I looked at my husband and he agreed with her. I lost my temper and yelled at them all. I told them they were delusional and to stop treating my daughter like she was unwanted. And to throw a party right instead of for an imaginary grandson. My Mother-in-Law started crying, I took my bag and walked out. My husband followed me outside and told me I insulted him and his family. He said it was disrespectful to the memory of his grandfather and I needed to come in and apologize. I told him to wake up and see the insanity He said I need to suck it up and play along. He said they need some time to get over the shock that it's not a boy. I said absolutely not and demanded he take me home. He said no, so I got a ride; He called 15 times, then texted that he wouldn’t be home until I come over and apologize for ruining everything they've done for me. Then he suggested I was mentally unstable. I sent one response and said, "Then I guess you aren't coming home". He didn't. And still hasn't. We haven't spoken or texted since this weekend. So what's my next move? This has to stop, and I think I'm okay ending my marriage over it. But is that short-sighted? What should I do?


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5. King’s Cup: Lay out a deck of cards face down, in a circle around a central cup. That’s the King’s Cup. Players take turns picking a card from the circle – each card has a different rule for making people drink. Best enjoyed with a large number of players – so you don’t incapacitate yourself too quickly!

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