Show Notes for Thursday, September 17, 2020


Dear John,

My wife and I lost our oldest son in a car accident two years ago. He would have been a senior in high school this year. We've gone through the grief of this horrible situation in such different ways. I've gone out of my way to do more things with our other children. I'm more involved and have devoted myself fully to being as close to them as possible. My wife has become very distant. Just as she gets better, something will pop up that pulls her back under. His birthday, Christmas, Back To School and worst of all the anniversary of his death. These things are spaced out about every few months, so just as she comes up for air from the last tidal wave, another one hits. I've tried to be there for her, but sometimes it feels like she wants to pull me under with her. I'm completely lost on this. We've tried counseling, but it's not helping. I'd like to find a way to be there for her and be there for our other children, but at this point I'm the only one there for our daughter and son at most times. My wife's mother is concerned and so am I. I know this is not the kind of fun “Dear John Letter” you'd like, but I could use some help on this. I've tried everything I can think of, so I'm hoping that someone else who has been through this may reply on your Facebook page. I would be very grateful. I'm afraid that this may eventually lead to the end of our marriage, but I'm even more concerned that it may lead to my wife taking her own life.

Signed – HusbandNeedsHelp

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September 17

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Warner Brothers is refusing to share Box Office Data from its $200 million dollar thriller, “Tenet,” which hit theaters last week. (

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New York Times movie critic Ben Brantley is stepping down. (

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Louis Vuitton is selling a luxury Coronavirus mask for $1,000. (

Travelers left behind nearly a million dollars at U.S. airport security checkpoints last year. A Transportation Security Administration report said travelers lost $926,000 at 75 airports in the year that ended in September. Much of the lost money came from people emptying their pockets for security scans. The paper says the largest sums were lost at airports in New York, San Francisco, Miami, Las Vegas and Dallas.

Older adults who want to take a crack at the newspaper crossword or try a new recipe may want to do it first thing in the morning. A small study (by Canadian researchers) found that adults between the ages of 60 and 82 were less distracted and better able to perform cognitive tasks between the hours of 8:30 and 10:30 AM than in the afternoon, when their brains started “idling”.

Although you’d probably get a bigger kick out of attending a concert or spending a week in Italy, people still mostly opt for items over experiences — because the value of items is more easily quantifiable. Researchers surveyed people before and after they made purchases. Beforehand, they rated life experiences as making them happier and as a better use of money than buying objects. But study subjects still tended to choose to buy objects over experiences. Then, despite picking items, most said they still believed the experiences would have been a better choice.

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Robbers in China entered a home at knife-point and held a woman and her one-year-old daughter hostage while her husband was ordered to a bank to make a withdrawal. While the robbers waited for his return, they forced the wife to cook them dinner.

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