Show Notes for Thursday, March 10, 2022


Dear John,

I don't usually like to air dirty laundry in public, but I can't continue to keep quiet about this anymore. I am so tired of being told “I don't work”. I am so tired of people expecting me to drop everything because “I don't work”. I am tired of people expecting me to respond right this minute, because “I don't work”. I am just tired of the stigma of the stay at home parent and caregiver. I work 24/7 365 days a year. I don't get weekends off! I love ALL of my children more than I can ever tell you, but I am tired. I have one child with special needs. Her care takes the bulk of my day. If she wakes in the middle of the night, I sit with her. If she has a seizure, I give her meds, if she is agitated, I try to soothe her. I pretty much take naps through the night to make sure she has everything she needs. I really shouldn't have to explain myself EVER! What I do during the day is no one's business! I know I don't work outside the home, but I do much more than sit around all day long. It's hard being a mom period, it's hard to be a working mom, it's hard being a single mom, it's hard being a stay at home mom, it's all hard! So please just stop assuming that because I am home all day that I am always available to just jump up and make sure your needs are met. Luckily I have an amazing support group and do have some respite care so I can breathe here and there. I have an amazing partner who is always by my side making sure I take care of myself too and that I have all the support in the world no matter what. Being a mama of a medically fragile child is so much more than just being home, It is very isolating. You lose a lot of people you though were your friends because you can't go to things like you used to. You think I should do it differently, come show me how that works. I am exhausted and so tired of hearing "you don't work" just because I don't get paid, it doesn't mean anything. No question here really, just be kind to us medical parents, you have no clue what we are dealing with! Thank you for reading this very long rant. This also wasn't directed to anyone in particular, but if you feel it was directed towards you, you maybe part of the problem! Thank you all for being part of this journey no matter what.

Signed – Tired Mom

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March 10

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Usually art imitates life, but for Molly Ringwald, this time it’s the other way around. After turning 54 recently, she shared a text exchange with her mother, who had forgotten to wish her a happy birthday. The situation mirrors Ringwald’s classic 1984 film “Sixteen Candles”, in which she portrayed a lovelorn high school student who realizes her family has forgotten her 16th birthday.

Stranger Things” — one of Netflix’s most popular series — will conclude in season 5. In a letter to fans Thursday, Duffer Brothers, creators of the twisty science fiction series, said: “Seven years ago, we planned out the complete story arc for ‘Stranger Things.’ At the time, we predicted the story would last 4 to 5 seasons. It proved too large to tell in 4, but — as you’ll see for yourselves — we are now hurtling toward our finale.” The news comes as Netflix announced that the next season of the series (season 4) will debut in 2 parts this summer. The first part will premiere on May 27 and the second part will hit on July 1.

Johnny Depp was awarded a medal of honor by controversial Serbian President Aleksandar Vučić in Belgrade Tuesday for his “outstanding merits in public and cultural activities”, and “the promotion of the Republic of Serbia in the world.” Depp also highlighted personal change during his acceptance speech, saying: “I’m right now on the verge of a new life and I like it, I like a re-beginning. And I would love for that for that beginning to start here.” Depp, shot the film “Minimata” and animated series “Puffins” in the country in recent years.

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Experts say that climate change is forcing some animals to adapt in unusual ways. Morgan Tingley, an associate professor of ecology and evolutionary biology at the University of California LA, says that species typically adapt in one of 3 ways: They move from one place to another when the region gets too hot, they change their breeding habits, such as seasonal timing, or they themselves change, either through evolution or natural selection. Here are some changes that have been observed in animals as a result of climate change:

Albatross penguins, famous for mating for life, are seeing higher “divorce” rates as temperatures warm. Researchers call this the first evidence of significant influence of the environment on divorce rates among a long-lived monogamous population.

Polar bears are inbreeding due to melting sea ice. The lack of genetic diversity could eventually lead to the species’ inability to produce fertile offspring or withstand disease.

Birds in the Amazon are shrinking. Because of a hotter, dryer climate, some have lost as much as 2% of their body weight since 1980. Scientists say a smaller body size allows the bird to dissipate heat more effectively. Birds are thought of by experts as overall indicators of the health of our ecosystem.

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The ‘tuatara’, a lizard native to New Zealand, has a third eye on the top of its head.

In Switzerland, it is illegal to pee standing up in an apartment building after 10pm, so others aren’t disturbed by unnecessary “tinkling”.

The human brain has the capacity to store everything that you experience.

The term “brain-freeze” was invented by 7-11.

A surfer once sued another surfer for “stealing his wave”.

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A museum security guard was so bored on his first day at work that he ruined a million-dollar painting by drawing eyes on the faceless figures depicted in the artwork. Anna Leporskaya’s “Three Figures”, painted in the 1930s, was on display at the Boris Yeltsin Presidential Center in Yekaterinburg, Russia, when someone noticed that, of the 3 faceless figures depicted in the avant-garde piece, 2 of them now had small dots for eyes. An investigation later revealed that an unnamed security guard, who was on his first day on the job, got bored and drew the eyes on the painting using a Yeltsin Center-branded pen. The man, who worked for a private security company, has since been fired and faces a fine and jail time.

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A group of teenagers decided they could help solve the shortage of emergency workers in their small town – by becoming EMTs. Like many rural areas, Sackets Harbor, NY relies entirely on volunteer EMTs, but the pandemic caused a shortage, as the older volunteers were no longer able to work. In New York, 17-year-olds can become EMTs, and people even younger than that can serve as assistants. That’s all the teens needed to hear — they quickly signed up for training, knowing they would be giving up time with friends and extracurricular activities to save lives. Once their training was complete, the teens immediately went to work, helping their neighbors with everything from chest pains to falls, even though sometimes when they respond to a call, the first thing they hear is, “Wait, how old are you?”