Show Notes for Thursday, August 18, 2022


Dear John,

My wife and I were married 20 years ago. Our anniversary is coming up in a few weeks and we're taking a little vacation to the same place we had our honeymoon. I wanted to bring our kids along, but she said that would be weird. I secretly want to renew our vows and make it another whole celebration. We've been through quite a bit in our twenty years. I stood by her side through some tough medical issues. She was with me through the loss of my mother and father. We've had ups and downs, but I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. How do I convince her to let the kids come with us? I would have a separate room for them. We can finally afford to do this. DO I just tell her why I want to bring them? It would ruin the surprise, but would that be better?

Signed – Madly In Love

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If you’re already missing “Better Call Saul”, I’ve got some bad news…with a bit of wiggle room. Co-creators Peter Gould and Vince Gilligan said at the Television Critics Association 2022 summer press tour that they don’t want to overdo the “Breaking Bad” universe, so we shouldn’t be holding our breath for more from the likes of ‘Walter White’ and ‘Saul Goodman’. Gilligan said that they “probably pushed it doing a spinoff of Breaking Bad”, and although he couldn’t be happier with the results, he also oversaw the sequel film “El Camino”, but it’s best to “know when to leave the party.” That’s said, the creators agreed that although they intend to create a new, unrelated series using much of the same crew behind the scenes, we shouldn’t completely close the door on Breaking Bad. Gould said: “Never say never. Who knows how we’re going to feel in a couple of years?”

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You probably tip the person who cuts your hair. And the person who delivers your dinner. How about the person cutting your lawn? More and more often, we’re seeing a gratuity option on card payment machines in industries where tipping didn’t used to be customary. Think: Fast food chains. And auto mechanics. This modern phenomenon, known as “tip creep”, is causing some online discussion. Some, for whom the practice leaves a bad taste in their mouth, are venting about being asked if they’d like to pay an extra 15% or more on top of the price of takeout pizza, and oil change, or propane tank refill. Why now? For one, as customers shift away from carrying cash, it’s easier than ever for any business to ask for a bit extra by adding the automatic prompt to the card payment machine — what psychologists call a “tip nudge”. For another, as we learned in the depths of the pandemic, people who perform an essential service are sometimes undervalued – and very important. Inflation is another likely driver: faced with rising costs, employers may view tips as a way to address workers’ demands for higher pay without actually increasing their wages.

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A caregiver surprised the adults she supports by asking them to be her bridesmaids. Kayrin Callaghan of Cornwall, England, says when her fiancé proposed, she instantly knew she wanted the adults she supports, all of whom have Down syndrome, to be a part of her special day. She has struck up a special relationship with Jamie, Daisy, Francesca and Chloe, who range in age from 18-26, by enjoying trips to the local swimming pool and cinema together. She asked the 4 of them to be her “flowermaids” by getting them to open boxes full of balloons. All 4 were ecstatic and are already planning a bachelorette party for bride-to-be. Callaghan says there were plenty of happy tears when asked them to participate in her wedding, and she’s planning a “Disney-inspired Halloween wedding, so they’ll get to wear princess dresses.”