Show Notes for Thursday, September 14, 2023


Dear John,

I went out with my group of friends for an end of summer dinner and drinks a few weeks back, and the ordering got a little out of control. We had a blast but the bill got pretty high. We agreed to each pay our own bill, but I got some appetizers and many drinks... my bill was just under $150 and that was before the tip. My credit card is getting close to maxed out, and I didn't have my debit card with me. I never seem to have cash. But I did have a $30 gift card to a grocery store a few blocks from the restaurant. So I left the gift card as a tip and wrote a note saying, "This is a $30 gift card." When I told my boyfriend, he said I should have borrowed some money from my friends. He says it was a low-class move. He said I need to go back to the restaurant and make it right. I SO don't want to do that. Plus, I don't think it's all that bad. Right? Was it wrong to leave a $30 gift card for a tip?


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(According to etiquette experts, and just in time for your weekend supermarket run…)

Using the express line with too many items: There, now that we have the most obvious one out of the way, let’s begin for real…

Ignoring aisle traffic rules: It’s like driving: Don’t block others, stop or change directions suddenly, or cross multiple lanes of traffic without checking for oncoming traffic. (And try to avoid collisions?)

Touching and opening things without buying them: Don’t. Just. Don’t. (Especially bananas!)

Disrespecting personal space: Show consideration for your fellow shoppers.

Taking things from other people’s carts: Really? People need to be told this?

Holding up the checkout line: Stay off your phone, and have your payment card ready. (And don’t run back to the produce section when you spot a bruise on one of your apples!)

✗ “Returning” items to random places: If you change your mind, especially if it is something that should be refrigerated, put it back, or give it to a staff member.

Not returning your cart: There. I thought we’d end on the other obvious one. Remember: Whether you return your grocery cart or not is the greatest proof of character there is. (Don’t be one of “them”.)

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