Show Notes for Thursday, October 26, 2023


Dear John,

I think I'm sending my husband back home to his mama. We got married during the pandemic... It's been...less than wonderful. I have a good job and make good money. My husband was out of work during the pandemic. And had moved back home with his mom. When we married, we decided he would move in with me and I would continue to pay the rent and bills as long as he got a job and later contributed to our life together. It's been well over a year. Everyone complains they can't find people to fill jobs. And he still can't find "the right job for him". Instead, he's going out with his buddies, binging Netflix, and playing video games. About a week ago, I asked him how the job hunt was going, and he told me that he didn’t feel like it was worth it. He said he was comfortable with what we had now. I lost it and told him that if he wasn't going to at least support his hobbies and habits, he should just move back home. He said his parents would be glad to have him, so I told him he has until the end of the month to get a job or get out. He thinks I'm the problem, now. But really? This isn't too much to ask, is it?


At The End Of My Rope!

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October 26th

National Day Of The Deployed

Horseless Carriage Day

Intersex Awareness Day

National Chicken Fried Steak Day

National Financial Crime Fighter Day

National Transgender Children Day

National Vivace Microneedling Day

Worldwide Howl At The Moon Night

National Mule Day

National Pumpkin Day

National Mincemeat Day

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Disney officially turned 100 years old last week, joining an exclusive club of companies that survived the Great Depression, World War II, the advent of the internet, and the social media era. But Walt Disney’s creation is still a youngster when compared to the Rolling Stones of the corporate world. Japanese contractor Kongo Gumi was founded in the year 578 to build a temple, making it about 1,440 years old — the oldest company in the world still in operation.

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Ben Affleck will receive the first-ever Gotham Visionary Icon and Creator Tribute at this year’s Gotham Awards ceremony for his film “Air”. The tribute award was created for this year’s ceremony to recognize cultural icons and the filmmakers responsible for bringing those icon’s stories to life. The Gotham will honor the visionaries behind the Michael Jordan partnership and celebrate Affleck’s film, which he directed, produced, and starred in. Th institite said that “Air is a deeply refreshing reminder to the film industry that audiences respond to smart, original narratives.”

It’s time to take the highway to the danger zone — for real. “Top Gun: The Next Generation”, is a new reality show coming to NatGeo, that will follow a group of Navy students as they train to become fighter pilots. Pilots will bet tasked with performing “some of the most challenging flight tests possible,” according to the network, “including landing on an aircraft carrier at sea” with “the world’s most advanced jet”, as well as following “the prospective naval aviators every step of the way — in the air, in the classroom, off-base and at home — as we discover who’s got what it takes to make it to the F-35C.” No premiere date yet.

Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds have reportedly made a $1 million donation to the International Committee to the Red Cross to “help children in Israel and Gaza.” The couple have frequently made a point of donating big sums of money to causes they feel strongly about. They matched up to $1 million in donations to the UN High Commissioner for Refugees following the Russian invasion of Ukraine, and $500,000 to the Water First Education & Training Inc. The pair are the first celebrities to make a public donation since the conflict began on Oct. 7.

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The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame ceremony will air LIVE on Disney+ November 3rd — and will see Kate Bush, Sheryl Crow, Missy Elliott, and George Michael inducted.

Sure it’s a popular name – but so much so that it’s necessary to have a festival? Saturday, October 21 the neighborhood of Williamsburg in Brooklyn, NY will host the first-ever “Rytoberfest” — an exclusive event only for those named Ryan. The official invitation reads: “The beers will be flowing and the Bryans won’t be going”. 150 Ryans, from as far away as Maine, and maybe even the West Coast are expected. The event comes from the ‘Ryan Meetup Group’, which was launched early this year, and quickly took off. A woman named (you guessed it…) Ryan Rose started the group with the aim of bringing people together with the same name – just for the heck of it. In recent months, half a dozen Ryan parties have been held in New York City and California. And they’re not kidding when they say that only Ryans are allowed. A recent “Ryan Rave” in Los Angeles featured a 3-tier system for checking IDs. But it should be pointed out that for this weekend’s Rytoberfest, non-Ryans will be allowed “if they are supervising an underage Ryan”. Hostess Ryan Rose says she’d eventually like to organize a “RyanCon” that will set a world record. 2,325 Europeans with the name ‘KupreŇ°ki kosci’ got together in 2017. A gang of ‘Kyles’ in Texas tried to break that record earlier this year, but fell short by about 500. LINK:

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The highest recorded fall without a parachute is 33,330 ft. (10.2km), in 1972. The victim was in hospital for 16 months afterward.

Michael Jackson’s shiny glove was actually a modified golf glove.

When it was introduced in 1848, the modern golf ball was called the “gutta-percha” ball.

Giraffes are 30 times more likely to get hit by lightning than people.


Question: If you’re going to do THIS, you probably started planning it 45 days in advance. What is it?

Answer: Wear a Halloween costume

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Just in time for Halloween, a new book is available, chalk full of secrets to outsmarting zombies, bees, and surviving the apocalypse. In “The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Apocalypse” authors Joshua Piven and David Borgenicht cheekily cover everything you need to maximize your chances of surviving a Doomsday disaster, and explain how you can “pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.” The handbook is packed with valuable advice, covering everything from eating rodents to outwitting zombie hordes. For example, it’s important to note that zombies cannot swim…and likely “cannot work a kayak paddle or steer a canoe”, according to the book. While much of the book is humorous, it still contains useful advice on things like packing for an outdoors trip and fending off animals and insects. Oh, and robots…just in case. Soaking a robot’s electronics with water should do the trick. LINK:

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Anyone can nominate a star: There is a $250 fee to submit an application. Applications must include a written promise from the star or his/her rep to attend the star unveiling, if approved. And the applicant has to agree to financially sponsor the star presentation. More about those coming up…

The star must attend the unveiling: This is known as the “Springsteen Clause”, after he was nominated by a fan, and it was discovered there was nothing in writing that said the star must show up to be honored. (We’re guessing they make exceptions for the dead?)

Someone has to pay for it: When it started in 1987, a star cost about $3,500. This year? $55,000. Next year? $75,000, “due to rising costs”. And who pays? The person who does the nominating is responsible for “sponsorship costs” once accepted.

Stars have a two-year window to schedule their ceremony: From the website: “Those selected for stars have a 2-year time frame in which to set their ceremony date” before the selections expire.

There are special rules for posthumous honors: Ah – here we are. Just one posthumous award can be given each year. And these must be a 2 year or more wait after the date of the star’s death, to prevent marginal stars from being swept in by emotion immediately after their death. (Because there are no “marginal stars” already enshrined, are there? I’m looking at you, Chris Berman, Tinker Bell, and Guy Fieri!)

It requires at least a 5-year career: To receive a star, one must achieve longevity in their entertainment category of 5 years or more”. (So much for 15 minutes of fame?)

Companies can’t receive stars (but there’s an asterisk): The Walk of Fame Committee does something else called the Awards of Excellence. These are done on private property. They look like a Walk of Fame star, with a different font. For example, at the El Capitan Theatre, there is a star for the Disney Company, on private property, adjacent to the Walk of Fame.

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