Show Notes for Thursday, December 17, 2020


Dear John,

My son's grandmother recently reached out to see if she can reconnect with my son. She was not a good mother to my ex-husband. She helped him mess up his life to the point that he is in and out of prison, and right after we got married she disowned him. Now that he's in prison again and her husband has died, she wants to connect with my her grandson. We have a good life. My wonderful husband has adopted my son and he would have no idea who she is. He's only four and I'm not ready to have the conversation with him about any of this, but I don't think she would be a good influence no matter what. I thought about this and prayed on it and we decided to tell her we don't think it's a good idea. Now I feel bad because she's all alone. Did I make the right decision? Should I call her to set up a supervised visit?

Signed – Super Protective Momma

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December 17

National Maple Syrup Day

Wright Brothers Day

National Re-Gifting Day

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An internal survey found that 55% of New York City Firefighters will refuse to take the COVID-19 vaccine when it becomes available to them. (

While the Target parking lot won’t be as busy this year, there will certainly be days where finding a good spot isn’t easy. Which means an uptick in parking space stalkers — people who follow you to your car in the hopes of snagging your space. The four main parking space strategies identified are:

• “Search & Destroy” — drivers who cruise the aisles for a space

• “Lie & Wait” — drivers who position themselves at the end of an aisle waiting for an opening

The “See It & Take It” — a driver who simply takes the first space they see

The “Stalker”

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A Florida man was sentenced to three months in federal prison for firing off a flare gun from a boat while drunk and prompting a search and rescue mission by the Coast Guard. According to a release from the office of U.S. Attorney Maria Chapa Lopez, 32-year-old Justin Patrick Obert of Fort Myers received the sentence that also includes three years of supervised release for communicating a false distress message to the Coast Guard. The federal court also ordered Obert to pay $13,414.78 to the Coast Guard for the cost of the operation. The sentencing comes after Obert’s guilty plea in the U.S. District Court on August 21st. The release said Obert had on September 9th, 2019 “drunkenly discharged two red distress flares from a vessel near Fort Myers Beach, triggering an emergency search and rescue operation by the United States Coast Guard, Fort Myers Beach Fire Rescue and the Florida Fish and Wildlife Commission.” (



1. The Grinch (animated) – $511.5 million worldwide box office (2018)

2. Home Alone – $476.7 million (1990)

3. Dr. Seuss’ How the Grinch Stole Christmas (Jim Carrey) – $345.1 million (2000)

4. A Christmas Carol (Jim Carrey animated) – $325.2 million (2009)

5. The Polar Express (Tom Hanks animated) $313.5 million (2004)

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Dial-A-Carol is back for its 60th season. Dial-A-Carol is a student-run holiday program at the University of Illinois. Each year the students of Snyder Hall, a University Housing residence hall, host Dial-A-Carol, which was started in December 1960 by Betty Gordon, an office secretary, and the residents of Snyder Hall who wanted to spread some holiday cheer around campus. Anyone from anywhere can call and request a holiday tune be sung to them. Dial-A-Carol runs 24 hours a day for seven days. Each year the line logs more than 10,000 calls from all 50 states and dozens of countries. Phone: 217-332-1882.

Coffee simply does not like to stay in place. Restaurant servers soon learn to pour coffee at the table or to carry the poured cup and saucer separately, lest they wind up with a half-empty coffee cup sitting in a pool of spilled liquid. Beer, however, presents no such challenge. Servers can maneuver through crowds while carrying a fully-loaded tray of beers fresh from the tap and filled to the top — all without spilling so much as a drop. Why is one of those beverages so much more prone to sloshing over the edge of its cup or glass than the other? Curious physicists identified the answer and it all comes down to foam. Just as solid foam reduces noise by absorbing sound waves, liquid foam does the same for motion. The researchers discovered foam’s insulating effects by performing controlled lab experiments on coffee and beer. They used high speed cameras to record the waves of motion that rocked through the surface of coffee, an amber beer and Guinness. The more foam that was present, they observed, the more energy was absorbed and the less sloshing occurred.

Thanks to climate change — and zombies — it’s more important than ever to have a disaster preparedness kit. Lucky for us Amazon has it covered. For just under $200 your family of four — plus the family dog — can rely on the Emergency Zone Urban Survival 72-Hour Bug Out/Go Bag Survival Kit. It’s a huge backpack that’s “Federal Emergency Management Agency–compliant.” There’s food and water, an emergency blanket, weather protection, medical supplies, and more.

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More than anything else, women carry money — including credit cards and a checkbook — in their purses. The next most popular items are gum/mints, tissues, lip balm and Pain reliever. Phones weren’t on the list, presumably because most people always have their phone in their hand.


Dateline.... RUSSIA

Russia has told its citizens they cannot drink alcohol for two months after they get the COVID-19 vaccine. (

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A woman was kicked off a Frontier Airlines flight last week after cursing at a staffer and refusing to wear a facemask. According to video obtained by Storyful, the incident unfolded on a December 3rd flight from Cincinnati to Tampa. “Ma’am, you have to wear your mask on the entire flight,” an airline worker can be heard telling the woman. “If you are unable to do so, you will be removed from the flight.” “Thanks, a–hole,” the woman responds. An officer is later seen gathering the woman’s luggage and escorting her from the plane, prompting applause from other passengers. “Face coverings are required throughout a traveler’s journey when flying with Frontier,” a company spokesperson said in a statement. (

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A mall Santa dropped the hammer on a little boy who asked him for a Nerf gun for Christmas — telling the bawling kid he wouldn’t bring him the toy. According to a Facebook post by the boy’s mother, the politically correct Kris Kringle was caught on video asking the child what he wanted for the holiday. The boy apparently mentioned a gun, because the Santa could be heard replying, “No, no guns.’’ When the kid’s mom, who was standing nearby, piped in just to be clear, “Nerf gun,’’ the not-so-jolly Ol’ St. Nick was still having none of it. “Nope, not even a Nerf gun,’’ said the unmoved Father Christmas. “If your dad wants to get it for you that’s fine, but I can’t bring it to you,” the Santa Claus said. The child turned to his mom and burst into tears, continuing to sob even when she bent down to hug and comfort him. It’s not clear when or where the incident took place, but the Twittersphere reaction was swift — and heavily against Santa.(


I read a headline, you guess if the story is something that really happened in the great state of FLORIDA or is it #FakeNews made up to trick you and amuse me

A woman dressed as a turkey was arrested for shoplifting ….. FLORIDA (

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